Is she dead?

If you ask me how I’m doing
I would say I’m doing just fine
I would lie and say that you’re not on my mind
But I go out and I sit down at a table set for two
And finally I’m forced to face the truth,
No matter what I say I’m not over you, not over you

Is she dead?

Now, before I start ranting, you should know I’m terrible at hearing / picking up on lyrics. I can whistle a song after one play, but lyrics take years for me to actually ‘hear’ and comprehend. So, with that in mind, some questions…

What did you do for the relationship to end? And why are you hanging on to the past? It’s not like it’s going to come back to you any time soon. As far as I know, we can’t really time travel. And what’s the point of holding on anyways? Waste of time.

I get frustrated, just like everyone else at times. But I’ve learned to let go. To accept that you can’t control others, and if you let others control you, you’re not better off in the end. Being mad or upset, and staying that way, especially directed at a person, are missed opportunities. Why spend time worrying about what can’t be, what you don’t control, and probably can’t influence.


I try to worry less, and anticipate more. It doesn’t always work, but seems to leave me in peace most of the time. But – that might not fit you, and how you are as a person. And that’s ok, too.

So the next time life serves you lemons, make something good to drink. Don’t worry too much about what could have been, what was great but is no longer. And don’t doubt yourself. You probably had just as much to do with the end of something as the other party. Right? It takes two to tango, and you can’t have it both ways.

Live for today, and for the future. Those are the only things you can control.


Of course, here’s the video in question…